Adam’s Rule

To the woman he said, “I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” Genesis 3:16 NIV

 Many teachers throughout the ages have tangled this scripture into a proof that God had in mind, from the start, for males to dominate females—married or unmarried, Christian or non-Christian, in church or outside the church, for all times.  These teachers insist that God had already created such a hierarchy, though the creation account states that God gave both male and female dominion over the earth together (Genesis 1:27-28) and was simply reiterating it.  They see scriptures that instruct wives to submit to their husbands (see my article on submission: as further proof of intended domination. Unfortunately, such ideas originated from pagan surroundings instead of the light of Jesus*.

The Hebrew word “mashal,” translated as “rule” in Genesis 3:16 means “to have dominion or to dominate;” when the Rabbis translated the Old Testament into Greek in the mid 200s BC (Septuagint), they used the word “kurieo” meaning to “lord over” or “control.”  The only uses of this word in the New Testament describe the Gentile rulers, who Jesus warned against–those who lord over one another (Luke 22:25) and the demon who overpowered and beat the seven sons of Sceva (Acts:19:16)—both were motivated by the devil, so in no way was God instructing Adam to “rule over” Eve!  Notice that God was addressing Eve, not Adam; he didn’t say, “Now Adam, this is what you must do;” rather, God described Adam’s future actions as a “fallen” man.  However, the Greek word “hupotasso,” translated as “submit” is entirely different and means to “voluntarily come under” as in cooperating—what all Christians are to do for each other (Ephesians 5:21).  The first is to demand; the second is to give.  Nowhere does the New Testament tell husbands—or any men, to dominate or lord over wives—or any women just because they’re women (or lord over anyone), but rather to serve them (Ephesians 5:25-33).

For some reason, Adam and Eve wanted the Knowledge of Good and Evil though they already knew Good since God is good and everything he made was good.  Taken in context, this confrontation of their sin describes, rather than a hierarchy, the ways they would experience that knowledge of evil, first hand–in the form of pain and struggle in working the land, in giving birth and in their relationship.

To the woman he said, “I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.”  To Adam he said, “Because you listened to your wife and ate fruit from the tree about which I commanded you, ‘You must not eat from it,’ “Cursed is the ground because of you; through painful toil you will eat food from it all the days of your life.  It will produce thorns and thistles for you,  and you will eat the plants of the field.  By the sweat of your brow you will eat your food until you return to the ground, since from it you were taken; for dust you are and to dust you will return.” Genesis 3:16-19 NIV

God’s response to Adam and Eve’s sin is written in a type of mirrored poetry in which the results of their mutual sin are somewhat paired.  Eve’s “painful labor” in childbirth is mirrored with Adam’s “painful toil” in farming—the Hebrew uses essentially the same word for both. It’s a sad prophecy that the areas of their fruitfulness would be hindered—by hard, painful work. Though their fruitfulness—Eve’s work to “give birth” and Adam’s working of the ground to “eat food from it” would continue, it would be tough going.

Additionally, the two sets of results or punishments for their sin are mirrored. Eve will have a longing for her husband, but apparently, he’d take advantage of her making herself vulnerable to him and rule over her (v.16b) while Adam will need the benefits of the soil, but it will fight him (v18).  The Hebrew word translated as desire, “teshookaw” means a stretching out after, a longing, a desire.  Some teachers attach a sinister meaning, insisting that Eve was after Adam to take him over just as sin was going after Cain (Genesis 4:7) and in fact, the same word is used.  However, the same word is also used in Song of Solomon (7:10) to describe the longing of a man and woman for one another—the latter is the way lexicons define the word (Brown-Driver-Briggs).

Eve, in making herself vulnerable, would want her husband Adam to love her in return but Adam would think of her as trouble and rebuff her.  It seems likely that God put that longing in Eve or she would probably turn away from his domineering behavior and there wouldn’t be any multiplying—no more humans on the earth.  So she longs to be with Adam—they’d always been together before, after all she was made from a part of him, though he would push her around and the childbearing that results from their union would bring intense pain.

Adam had also had a close relationship with the “ground” right from the start, first having come from it, then working the beautiful Garden of Eden. But now that relationship had gone sour as well. Adam was vulnerable to the “ground” because of his need for food—he and Eve had only “seed-bearing plants” to eat so Adam had to grow their food, or they’d starve but the interaction with that “ground” would also be painful.

But the ground couldn’t help it, because “the creation was subjected to frustration, not by its own choice” (Romans 8:20).  Similarly, Adam was trapped by sin in his domination of Eve.

Then Jesus came to set us free! There’s hope—hope for Eve, Adam and all of us born since!  God didn’t leave them there; he announced that Eve’s seed—not Adam’s (v.15) would crush the serpent’s head!  Jesus would be (and now has been) born of a virgin woman–not a man and overcome Satan for all time and beyond!

“…the creation itself will be liberated from its bondage to decay and brought into the freedom and glory of the children of God” (Romans 8:19) and in Jesus, a husband “must love his wife as he loves himself” (Ephesians 5:33).

*“Plato (428 BC) an ardent follower of Socrates, passed his low view of women to his most influential disciple Aristotle (384 BC), who taught that males were to be the dominators, while females and slaves were meant to be dominated, and that all females were inferior to males.  Aristotle wrote ‘we should look upon the female state of being as though it were a deformity, though one which occurs in the ordinary course of nature.” Gundry, Women Be Free, 18.

 

 

 

 

Submission

21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Ephesians 5:21-32

The dreaded “S word”–submit.  Many preachers are afraid to tackle this subject—afraid of being “the bad guy” and many others tackle with this subject—not caring if they’re “the bad guy.” The Bible does indeed say that wives are to submit to their husbands, but there are a couple things to note.  In the Greek, the word submit, doesn’t even appear in Ephesians 5:22 but comes from verse 21 “submit to one another, out of reverence for Christ”—all Christians are to submit to one another.  It’s about mutual submission because we love Jesus and we love each other.  The Greek word translated as “submit” is hupotasso, which is a military term; when it’s used in a non-military sense as this is, it means to voluntarily come under with the idea of cooperating together to accomplish something*.  Paul and Peter always spoke directly to the wives and never told the husbands to make them submit.  I’ve come across several women who want nothing to do with God because their fathers, while beating their mothers yelled, “Woman, submit!”**

From the beginning, it was not so…  Incidentally, the Bible never tells all women to submit to all men just because they’re men.  And it NEVER commands women whether Old Covenant or New, to obey their husbands.  But Sarah obeyed Abraham… Yes, but she chose that and was commended not commanded. (However, God commanded Abraham to listen to his wife and do what she said concerning Hagar. (Genesis 21:12)

If you look at the whole section in Ephesians 5 you’ll see that once again, the Bible interprets itself.  Paul emphasizes one role of Jesus toward the church as a comparison to marriage, that of giving his life up for her.  Paul used a metaphor; metaphors don’t compare on every point, only those that the author emphasizes, just as when we refer to Jesus as “the Lion of Judah,” we refer to his strength, power, and leadership, even ferocity.  We’re not saying that he has four paws and a tail and sleeps all day draped over tree branches!  In the same way, Paul does not mean to compare husbands to Jesus in every way.  A husband can never save wives from their sin, he didn’t create them and he’s certainly not God!  What Paul does say is that a husband is to love her as much as he loves himself, to feed and care for her—just as Jesus did and does for the Church (this was a culture that treated women with contempt and as property), even leaving his family behind.  Notice that the majority of the instruction is to the husband!  It’s about love not rulership!

Think about it, when you go to a salon to get your hair cut, you have to voluntarily come under the stylist, you have to sit still and let him or her serve you.  Peter didn’t want to allow Jesus to serve him by washing his feet—he didn’t want to hupotasso to Jesus’ loving service.  Jesus washed his disciples’ feet to be an example for us to serve one another.

*Bauer’s Ardnt Gingrich, (Chicago University of Chicago Press) 847

Thayer’s Greek Lexicon (software)

** In fact, God is very plain that he is against turning against one’s wife. And this is the second thing you do: You cover the altar of the Lord with tears, with weeping and crying;
So He does not regard the offering anymore, nor receive it with goodwill from your hands. Yet you say, “For what reason?” Because the Lord has been witness between you and the wife of your youth, with whom you have dealt treacherously; yet she is your companion and your wife by covenant.But did He not make them one, having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring. Therefore take heed to your spirit and let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth. “For the Lord God of Israel says that He hates divorce, for it covers one’s garment with violence,” says the Lord of hosts. “Therefore, take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously.” NKJV